Wednesday, September 7, 2011

My Kids Annoy Me Sometimes...And Why It's OK That I Said That Out Loud

 Have you ever been really annoyed by your kids?

Have you ever wanted to tell them to just please STOP TALKING?

Have you ever looked like this?


 Having kids can be a wonderful beautiful thing. They can be so precious.

They can also be really obnoxious.

But do you know what else is obnoxious? Moms who pretend that it's always rainbows and sunshine when they are with their kids. It aggravates me when Moms aren't honest about how hard motherhood is.

Love is work. Parenting is hard. Motherhood is exhausting.

Let's just allow ourselves to be real about that.

Sometimes it's hard to admit that our children don't bring us every ounce of joy and pride that we expect they should.

Sure, at the end of the day, when they are quietly sleeping and looking all angelic, we swoon over our sweet babies. But while in the middle of a game of 20 million questions, you really just want to roll your eyes and walk away.

We don't. We listen and nod and say, "Oh, wow! That's neat! Uh-huh. Uh-huh." And we answer why and how. Over and over and over.

Sometimes we just need to tell someone that our kids annoy us.

And that's ok. It does NOT make you a bad Mom to feel annoyed or aggravated at your kids once in awhile.

Or once a day. Whatever.

So here is your chance. Admit what annoys you about your child. Get it off your chest. Don't worry, we won't tell.

I'll go first:

I hate it when my kids whine Mooooommmmmyyyy. It's like nails on a chalkboard.

I get so annoyed when my kids hang on me when I'm trying to do something. I am not a jungle gym people!

When my youngest kisses me, he slobbers all over my face. I don't want to act like I don't like his kisses, but the slobber grosses me out!

Sometimes when my oldest is telling a story that never ends, I tune out and just nod and in my head I'm thinking, "Oh for the love of all things good and holy will you please just get to the end!"

There. Phew! Now. Your turn!

18 comments:

  1. Amen and amen! I love mommyhood, but there are days (today for instance) where I'd like to cuddle up on the couch with a warm blanket and a movie. Instead I will take care of two little ones and I might get 3 minutes on the couch...without the blanket.

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  2. Well I hope you enjoy your 3 minutes!! :)

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  3. Of course we all have moments like that!

    Whining is awful! And I also hate being climbed on. My DD has super boney elbows, so it really hurts!
    My DS (10 mos) won't go to sleep without fighting me. He kicks and hits me. I know he's not trying to hurt me, but he does and it makes me want to just leave.

    Ah, much better :-)

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  4. Oh my word my children annoy me at times! (along with the 'perfect super competitve mums but that could be another post). No-one can have children that never bug them, surely? My top annoyances are whining, squabbling and clinginess (my daughter) esp. at school in the mornings!

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  5. My oldest has a habit of saying "Hey Mom!" 500 times a day. He starts literally EVERY sentence with it, and sometimes he says it just to get my attention.  "Hey Mom!" "What, Noah?" "Hi." GRrrrrrrrr!!!!!!!!

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  6. Oh yes, the overuse of Mom in any way can wear you down!

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  7. I can't stand the way that they have to constantly test me to see what they can get away with-- instead of "mommy's tired, we should give her a break" it's "mommy's tired--maybe she'll give us cookies for dinner" 

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  8. Oh my goodness... I HEAR THAT ONE!

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  9. Love this subject; so totally agree that we can be good moms AND be annoyed, frequently.  My kids are older than yours, but just tonight, my 8th grader was going on and on about the details of a school project (he LOVES details and thinking out loud about organizing his work -- makes him an awesome student, but golly he talks...), while I was trying to get the groceries, plus my purse, plus my glasses, plus some trash someone left behind, out of the car and into the house. He continued while I put it all away, and even continued while I (when I thought he was taking a breather, I said "oh, I have to wash my face, be right back!) zipped quickly to the bathroom, and then continued as I started dinner. At one point he was talking from the dining room while I was stirring and I tried to politely tell him I couldn't hear from there, and so he came closer, but not before I mouthed the words to the stove: "omg stop talking!!" In actuality, I really did muster the energy to interject some ideas and comments but looking back, I have no idea how I pulled that off at the end of the day on an empty stomach.

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  10. That's a real Supermom moment right there! We push through the annoyance and do what we gotta do!

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  11. God bless you all. I needed that. I actually landed on this site because I Googled what to about kids hanging on you! I get beat up 4 bony elbows, knees, butts...I feel horrible saying stay away from me but enough is enough.

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  12. Some of your comments are not coming through on this post and I don't know why! I'm so sorry! But I have seen every single one of them and I love that you are all sharing so honestly with me! Thank you dear friends!

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  13. Thank you for this. The phonies annoy me, too. In my house I get to work ft, live no where near any family, and husband gets to stay home. So the 2 hours I see them is first grade daughter constantly arguing and being bratty and one year old literally whining for me to hold him. But I am expected to smile about it? I guess it isn't just the kids that annoy me but the clear double standard that still exists. I love them, but it can be heart breaking when the whole house is unhappy at the end of the day. It does make me feel like a bad mom.

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  14. It's totally ok to feel frustrated at your kids and still be a good mom! That's why I wrote this. There is this idea that good moms love their kids unconditionally so that must mean we never feel bad feelings towards them. Not true! It's totally normal!

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  15. My oldest son is 6 AND is ADHD and a few other things that causes these annoying and outrageous outburst. I know that at some point he can't help it, but geez it drives me to the point of pulling my hair out. then my two year old twins are constantly biting and hitting eachother. Then on top of that my 1 year old is picking up all the bad habits of my 6 and 2 year olds. Talk about a frustrated mommy!!!!! I am so glad that other mommies can admit that although parenting is wonderful alot of the times, it can be a hair-pulling, lose my mind, have had enough of this crap alot of the times too. Thanks for the site.

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  16. I'm glad I read this.  Right now it is a little after midnight and my 2 year old is up screaming and yelling.  When I try to see what 's wrong she just swings herself around and gets more upset then I get upset, then earlier my 4 year old wouldn't go to bed until eleven because he's developed a new fear of shadows.  Tonight was just hell trying to get him to bed.
    I'm just so ANNOYED with it.  They're still young so it's aggravating trying to get them to understand things when they just can't fully get it yet.  It's like talking to a wall.

    & I feel like I get NOTHING done.

    Too much screaming going on.  Just shush for a second.

    Don't get me started on those "rainbow and sunshine" moms.  Wow, thinking about that made me much less irritated about my kids.

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  17. Oh honey. I feel your pain! Just breathe. Just remember that in this stage in your life, sometimes getting nothing done is ok! Just go with it and do what you can. I h ope things get better soon!

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  18. Glad to have read this. So many women act like motherhood is perfect. My middle child does the wet kisses thing, my oldest is really really loud and my son seems like a perpetual 3 year old even though he's 8. I feel better now.

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